Is there still One who cares 
...when I search for a spouse but find non?

Today in the SDA church: Many single persons who would like to have one with whon they can share their lives. But where is the One? What shall I have searched for such a long time, and he/she is simply not there? And if he/she is - he/she is not interested in me...
The other side of the story: Some of us finds the one WE think is "the one". But it do not take long after the marriage, and hell breaks loose. Why? Could it have been avoided?

The story of Adam and Eve
Gen. 2:18; Mark 10:6: The desire for companionship is natural. God did not create man to be alone. 
Gen. 2:20: Even in Adam - a perfect, sinless being, was the desire awakened for a companion.
Gen. 1:26+2; Matt. 28:20: In fact, God Himself was never alone. The Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit was always together - they lived and worked together, and enjoyed each others fellowship. God had the desire for even more companions, and the angles were created... and finally man was also created in his image.
1. John 4:8: God is love. This is His main principle. And love cannot exist without being shared. Therefore the Godhead always had fellowship one with another.
Gen. 2:20: Even though Adam had the fellowship with God, he longed for someone like himself. Someone that he could love and understand, and who could love and understand him, and be by his side. This longing was placed in his heart by his Creator.

...But how did Adam find his wife? It was no one there!

Gen. 2:20: "...there was not found an help meet for him..." So even Adam may realate to the situation you may find yourself in! There was simply no one! 

So what did God do about it? ...Let's go a little backward in the story to begin with.

Gen. 2:7: God creates Adam.
Gen. 2:8-15 (see also Gen. 1): Before God creates Adam, he has prepared a place for him to live and a work for him to do.
Is. 43:7: God has also created man with a purpose. Beside his desire for companionship, the Bible says clearly that man was created with one spesific purpose: To glorify God. So - before Adam was created the Lord already had a main purpose for his life, and a practical place/work where he could make this a reality. Was this something unike - something only for Adam?
Ps. 139:13-18; Jer. 1:5: No, even before we were born, God also had a certain plan for our lives - a life calling where He already saw that we could glorify Him and be a blessing to others with the talents He had given us.
Gen. 2:15+19; Gen. 1:28: God also had a work for Adam to do: He should take care of the new created planet. He should till the soil and have dominion over the beasts, fowls and fishes. From the very beginning God "tested" his mind. He should give names to all the animals.
Gen. 2:20: AS HE WAS FAITHFULLY DOING THE WORK the Lord had given Him to do, he realized something. All the animals had their companions. Where were his? He saw his need and the longing was awakened. 
Gen. 2:21: So what did God do to this man who longed for a wife? He let him sleep! His emotions, his thoughts, his whole being SLEPT. And while Adam slept, God could work. 
Gen. 2:22: He formed the most beautiful lady for him. One who fitted him perfectly, and actually was a part of himself, and God Himself led her to Adam. 
Gen. 2:23: Was Adam satisfied with God's choise for him? Absolutely.
Gen. 2:24: Then comes the beautiful, well known verse that tells us two becomes one. God Himself performed the wedding ceremony.

Could this be your story? What can we learn from this story?
Step 1) Realize the main purpose of life: To glorify God. ACCEPT JESUS as your Creator, and the Lord and Guide of your life.
Step 2) Relize your SPESIFIC LIFE CALLING & do it faithfully. In what way has God called you to glorify Him? Education -> Work...
Step 3) As you do your work faithfully you may feel the need/desire of someone to share it and your life with - your LIFE COMPANION. But instead of desparately seeking for her yourself, tell God of your desire, and REST in His love and providence. In His time, if it is His will, He will let you meet your Eve, and you will know it is her! And what about the EVE's? God can also lead us to our ADAM. He has done it before!

The story of Isaac and Rebecca 
Gen. 24:1-8: The Fathers care for his son. It really matters who we marry. Abraham knew this. It should not be one of the heaten ladies of Canaan. Beside this: Abraham knew it was God's purpose for his son to live in the promised land. This was a part of Isaac's life calling, as the son of the patriarch and the inheritor of the promises. It would be wrong to take step 3) in conflict with step 2).
Gen. 24:8: The lady should not be forced to follow Abrahams servant to the promised land and her houseband Isaac.
Gen. 24:11: Where was the servant going? To the well. This was the place he met Rebecca. She was faithfully doing her work, and did not know anything about what would soon take place. Maybe she did not even know that there was a man existing on the face of the earth called Isaac, the son of Abraham. (Even though we know that they were relatives, and that her family knew Abraham from before.)
Gen. 24:12-14: The only way Abrahams servant could find the right wife for Isaac, was by just being a tool for the Lord. The Lord had to find the wife. What was the sign he asked for? Willing service. A lady who was not just doing what she was asked to do, but saw the need of something more, and would offer the needed help.
Gen. 24:15: God hears long time before the sincere prayer is offered. He has already sent Rebecca, and she is there before the prayer is ended.
Gen. 24:16-21: The lady is so far exactly fullfilling the prayer request - so far. As a "bonus" she is even beautiful - but this was not what he asked for! The servant is amazed, but still he have to check out one more important thing. It is not enough to be nice and helpful. If she is a heathen, he cannot bring her home to Isaac. Here is a lesson to learn: That a person is nice, gentle and helpful is not enough. If you as a Seventh-Day-Adventist christian wants to join your life with someone, they have to be of the same faith.
2. Cor. 6:14: This verse underlines the same thought.

EGW in Adeventist Home, p. 56: "The plea is sometimes made that the unbeliever is favorable to religion and is all that could be desired in a companion except in one thing--he is not a Christian. Although the better judgment of the believer may suggest the impropriety of a union for life with an unbeliever, yet, in nine cases out of ten, inclination triumphs. Spiritual declension commences the moment the vow is made at the altar; religious fervor is dampened, and one stronghold after another is broken down, until both stand side by side under the black banner of Satan. Even in the festivities of the wedding the spirit of the world triumphs against conscience, faith, and truth. In the new home the hour of prayer is not respected. The bride and bridegroom have chosen each other and dismissed Jesus."

What if you are already contemplating such a relationship? EGW in Adeventist Home, p. 67-68: "What ought every Christian to do when brought into the trying position which tests the soundness of religious principle? With a firmness worthy of imitation he should say frankly: "I am a conscientious Christian. I believe the seventh day of the week to be the Sabbath of the Bible. Our faith and principles are such that they lead in opposite directions. We cannot be happy together, for if I follow on to gain a more perfect knowledge of the will of God, I shall become more and more unlike the world and assimilated to the likeness of Christ. If you continue to see no loveliness in Christ, no attractions in the truth, you will love the world, which I cannot love, while I shall love the things of God, which you cannot love. Spiritual things are spiritually discerned. Without spiritual discernment you will be unable to see the claims of God upon me, or to realize my obligations to the Master whom I serve; therefore you will feel that I neglect you for religious duties. You will not be happy; you will be jealous on account of the affections which I give to God, and I shall be alone in my religious belief. When your views shall change, when your heart shall respond to the claims of God, and you shall learn to love my Saviour, then our relationship may be renewed."  

Gen. 24:23-26: The lady is not only helpful and beautiful. She is one of Abrahams realtives. The servant is SO thankful, and praises God.
Gen. 24:31-49: The ladies family has to be asked. He do not just simply ask them, but tells them how GOD has led so far.
Gen. 24:50-51: Their conclution: The Lord has spoken. Let God's will take place.
Gen. 24:52: The servant is again praising God.
Gen. 24:58: Rebecca also see God's guidance, and she herself decides to go.
Gen. 24: 62-63: Isaac has gone out into the nature to meditate. He is seeking time with God - then he lifts ut his eyes and sees. His bride is brought to him!
Gen. 24:67: The joy of two persons - led together by God!

Present day stories
Is this just stories for the past - or do you believe we have the same God today, that have the same power to lead and guide? He is!
Stories from more present time.

The principle
Ps. 37:3-7a; Matt. 6:33: Do not seek your desire. Seek Him who can give you your desire when your heart is brought in tune with His. Never seek something that is opposite to His councils - and spend time to know Him and His will! If He calls you to be single, He will still provide all your needs - and the fellowship you need. If He wants you to marry, he knows the time and the person.

Seek His councils
If you want to aviod sad, lifelong mistakes, read the books "Messages to Young People" and "Adventist Home" and surrender this issue of your life totally to God's guidance. He has his time for everything. Do the first thing first - and He will guide you through the rest.

Appeal: Do you want to be happy in your life? Are you willing to surrender all to Jesus - also this area of your life? Are you willing to stop your independent seeking for your desires, but to intensivate your search for the One who can change your heart so you only desire His will? Do you believe His promise - that He then will give you the desire of your heart?